Visibility blocks are inner blocks that stop us from speaking out on topics we’re passionate about.
- They stop us from sharing our ideas with people for fear of what others will think.
- They stop us from blogging about a subject we’re afraid will be controversial.
- They stop us from writing books or building a social media following.
- They stop us from speaking up about harassment in the workplace.
- They stop us from promoting ourselves in the workplace and as business owners.
- They stop us from telling our partners how we really feel, for fear of some form of recrimination.
Visibility and the good girl
As a woman it’s almost inevitable that you’ve received some conditioning around behaving like a ‘good girl’ during the course of your life. Whether that was explicit conditioning from your parents or teachers, or it was a message you received because you’re immersed in a society which uses this archetype as a tool to keep girls and women in their place.
Every woman’s ‘good girl’ plays out differently. Your age, your class, your sexuality, your race or ethnicity, and even your physical strength affect how your good girl shows up in the world.
There are however, some characteristics they all have in common. The good girl is compliant. She doesn’t speak up against authority figures. She doesn’t cause trouble. She doesn’t behave in ways that might be perceived to be controversial. She doesn’t push back. She doesn’t misbehave. She doesn’t answer back. She placates. She smiles even when she feels distressed, angry, or afraid. She does as she’s told. She speaks and is heard only on acceptable topics or when granted permission. She doesn’t step out of line and she doesn’t choose for herself if her desires contravene the rules laid out for her.
The good girl stops you from running your own business in an area that’s different or unusual. The good girl stops you from speaking up against a boss who’s bullying or harassing you. The good girl exhausts you. She takes on tasks to help out others, even when her plate is already full to overflowing. She thinks it’s her job to be there for everyone else; to attend to their needs. Because of that she has no time for herself. And because she has no time for herself she’s unable to write that blog post, create that video, or write the book that’s in her heart. And if, by some miracle, she does carve out time for these things, she comes up against a second lot of fears; that she’ll get it wrong, won’t be good enough, or will say something that might offend.
The visibility block clearing class will support you in dismantling the good girl. We’ll explore the internal narrative that keeps her in play. We’ll clear out that narrative so you’re free to think and behave differently. Unburdened by the limitations of your conditioning.
As a consequence, you’ll stop playing smaller than you’d like to be playing in the world. You’ll release your fear of being judged, criticised, or wrong. You’ll be more confident to speak up about the things that matter to you.
NB: There isn’t currently another Good Girl Class scheduled at this time. Please email us at admin(at)samanthanolansmith(dot)com if you’d like to be notified when the next class is scheduled.
What do we do in the classes?
Our meetings run for 90 minutes. During that time you’ll:
- uncover and clear out some of the common narratives that women collectively internalise about speaking up, and being seen and heard in the world
- be taken through a series of deep healing and energy clearing techniques to release those stories and make way for a new collective experience
- participate in clearing out some of the individual stories and experiences of the women in the room
- learn techniques to use in your own life to continue the clearing and the healing after the call
- anchor into what it would feel and look like to make different decisions, to behave differently, to be fearless in the face of societal conditioning that would otherwise keep you playing small, and
- pave the way for the warrior woman within to come to the fore in your work and in your life.
Wondering what people say about my work?
Your thoughts on the worldwide problem of women and their oppression/lack of power/permission to be visible attracted me to your work. You are honest, spot on, and without gimmick. That’s so refreshing.
— Shalagh, Maryland, USA
I love what you do, and you have without a doubt completely changed my life.
— Samantha, Sydney, Australia
I really like that visibility has been approached from a much deeper, richer, intellectual perspective – the history of women and power which I really connect with and is very motivating… I am really re-thinking and trying to work differently, much more gently and in tune with my body… I feel so much better about being visible.
— Libby, Sydney, Australia
I had the biggest clearing of my life on Monday. Sam you are a wonderful practitioner. You dealt with the cosmic and the pragmatic and the sublime and the (completely) ridiculous, without missing a beat. I am experiencing the world so differently now… and it’s a sweet place to live. So much gratitude. So much love.
— Belinda, Gold Coast, Australia